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Finding Your (My) Purpose: To Be Continued

No posts since October! Where does the time go? I think we can all agree that the holiday season gets downright ridiculously busy. November & December are basically gone before they even start. You’ll be happy to know, though, that I haven’t been ignoring my blog; I’ve just been very deep in thought about this post. Well, in between traveling, weddings, holidays, the flu (twice, I think), and a New Year.

I’ve been trying to figure out the most effective way to discuss “purpose” and I’ve written and re-written several times before finally realizing that maybe that’s the whole idea…to just throw some ideas around. I watched a video on http://www.positivelypositive.com a few months ago, and it resonated with me, so much that I haven’t been able to let it go. SO MUCH, that I haven’t really been able to write. I’ve been in my own head about what my purpose is to the point that no other topic has floated to the top of the blog pile.

The video by Brian Johnson discussed purpose in that it’s being the highest version of yourself possible. I literally stopped in my tracks and asked myself, “Are you being the best YOU that you’re capable of being?” The answer is no, which is why it’s January 22nd and I’m finally writing about it.

Needless to say, this topic had me wound up for a few months. After breathing into a brown paper bag to re-stabilize my breathing, I forgave myself for thinking I was perfect. What now after realizing this? Well, first I have to acknowledge the topic.  I got a little ahead of myself and forgot that the journey is what it’s all about; discovering our purpose is the whole idea. If we were born as the highest version of ourselves, then what? No falling down and getting back up? No drunken night stories to recite? I don’t know, but I have a feeling it’s all set up like this for a reason.

Spending time thinking about purpose has made me responsible for the areas of my life where I find excuses instead of rising to the occasion to be a higher version of myself. If we wait for the perfect time to better ourselves in our career, relationships, spirituality, or whatever, we may wake up one day and wonder where 40 years have gone…and we still feel like we haven’t shown the world who we really are. This includes making changes where necessary! You choose your path. You choose your time spent best.

There is only one you. You come with a very specific lineup of skills, personality, character, detail, description, and much much more. Sometimes those traits are suppressed for fear of judgement, or they may never even be tapped into. Are you capitalizing on the characteristics that make you the best you? If you’re waiting for the perfect day, that day is today. Today, be the highest YOU that you can imagine. Breathe. Believe me, it’s going to be great.

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Confidence: Part II

Since I’ve already touched on confidence in a previous post, I’ll call this part II, even though part I is simply a quote. The quote says, “The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them.”  Think back to a decision you recently made. Did someone around you influence it? Was it a decision you thought you “should” make instead of what you whole-heartedly wanted to do? Think about your decision-making skills for a moment…

If your anything like me, part of you is somewhat of a people-pleaser; but not any kind of people-pleaser. You make decisions based on what you think others want you to do. Friends or family members aren’t even offering their opinion. They may be saying things like, “do what’s best for you,” or “it’s your life, not mine.” But due to faulty decision-making skills or poor patterns you’ve developed over the years, you have based your life partly on the approval of others. As a result, you subconsciously live based on you think others will approve of.

I have good news! Two things: First, most of the time, others don’t care what you do as long as you’re safe, happy, and healthy. Seriously, your friends and family aren’t putting ANY thought into your decisions because they’re busy making their own. What a relief, right? It’s you putting extra, unnecessary thought into this process because you’re lacking a very important ingredient, which brings up the next point. Second, confidence will solve this decision-making dilemma; it’s a game changer. This is the gold that backs up your decisions. Let’s talk about this for a sec.

This goes all the way back to Big Bird on Saturday mornings…be confident, be original, be yourself. Ok, but what does confidence look like in an average day? It looks like this-making decisions from your gut instinct and nowhere else and declaring it with pride. Don’t doubt yourself when you know more than anyone what’s best for you, so shout it to the rooftops if you have to. Who knows, it might not end like you envision or hope, but it’s all part of your journey! And your journey is a mystery to everyone…even you.

Make decisions knowing that you are the sole owner and ultimate judge. A rewarding life is that of lessons, growth, change, and reflection. Owning your decisions with confidence makes your life authentic. No explanations necessary.

Comparison is a Thief

Somewhere along the line, between second grade and adulthood, comparisons became subjective. We were comparing what the family was doing in photo A to photo B, and how many sides an octagon had to a pentagon. Now, we’re comparing our jobs, our income, our homes, and our whole lives. It’s inevitable for us to make comparisons in order to make better decisions, but it’s not inevitable for us to compare ourselves to others.

It started happening before we even knew it! When we were young, we watched television, listen to music, and read magazines that made us subconsciously compare ourselves to those characters. It’s wasn’t all negative; I loved thinking about how my life was like “Full House”! I mean, who didn’t secretly want to be one of the kids on “Kids, INC.”? Completely natural. I don’t want to get into marketing schemes and target audiences…but that was definitely a huge part of where this whole thing started.

That innocent, unconscious-subconscious has manifested itself into our society, full throttle. We not only compare ourselves to what we see on the cover of a magazine (which isn’t even real), but we compare ourselves to our neighbors. The latter is probably more of an issue. The term “Keeping up with the Jones’” has become keeping up with the Smiths, Fords, and every other name in the cul-de-sac. How can you live your own, unique, organic, original, one-of-a-kind life if you’re mimicking everything someone else does? There is only one YOU. God made only one you. No matter how much we try to act, be, portray, live, or follow the life of others, our spirit will seep through and we will still be original under the surface. So why not just shine? Why not simply fly your flag?

I love having Facebook. I think it’s great. BUT, be honest, do you sometimes look at others’ pages and wish you had something they had? I mean, it’s the foolproof way of stalking someone and not getting caught! The next time you catch yourself doing this, which I’m guilty of 100%, think about how you feel. Stop, take inventory, and think about if you feel good or bad. If you were your own best friend, would you allow your friend to feel bad about themself or their life? Absolutely not! The same goes for reading a magazine, or watching reality TV. Do it for enjoyment. Period. Quit denying yourself the opportunity to love your life because you’re caught up in what those around you are doing. What’s that saying by Regina Brett… “If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.”  You only have ONE life, and one body. It’s special and solely owned by YOU. Do yourself a solid and make it different than anyone else’s in the entire world.

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